For myself, it means to accept yourself and your life exactly the way it is.
Let me try to explain this.
You might be saying, but my life sucks because of (Fill in the blank). How about, it’s unfair that so and so has (fill in the blank). Or maybe you are saying something like, I wish I had hair like a model or the smile of Angelina Jolie, but that won’t happen because my teeth are crooked!
Life is full of should and shouldn’t. From my example, you should have “X” because they have “Y,” I should have great hair because that is what makes you beautiful, and I shouldn’t smile because I have space between my teeth and that makes me ugly.
But, who made those rules? Was it some wise person in some far away land who said, “Everyone should have a fancy car, a big house, long flowing hair like Fabio, and a smile like Tom Cruz.”?
Sorry to break it to you, that’s not where it came from. There wasn’t a wise old mystic sitting on the hilltop, drinking tea, on a big fluffy pillow telling everyone how the world should be! It’s actually a learned mentality where people believe that bigger is better. More is better. It’s all about quantity over quality. This isn’t from a mystic, it’s from people learning from the media and everyday society. Do you remember the lesson Ricky Bobby learned in Talladega Nights: The Ballad of Ricky Bobby? “If you ain’t’ first, you’re last!” Great advice, right? No, wrong.
Sadly, that is precisely what a lot of people believe.
What does that do for a person? I tell you what. It causes suffering, jealousy, and greed, to name a few. All because people want more. All those feeling make a person feel pretty crappy, don’t they?
So, how about this? What if you said, I accept what I have, I agree the way I am, and stop comparing myself to others? Well, for one, you won’t care that you have that old rusty crappy car. After all, it still gets you from point A to point B! What if you accept that you are balding because that’s the genes that you were dealt in life. It’s not a big deal, less hair, equals less shampoo, right?
You see folks, why compare yourself to others when you are not the others. Say yes to the life you have. This acceptance will diminish the suffering you have, wipe out the jealousy you feel, and eliminate the greed of wanting more.
I know I’m writing like it’s an easy thing to accomplish, but I, for one, understand that it’s not. It takes practice and reminding yourself until it becomes automatic. If you want to read a helpful book on the subject, check out the book Radical Acceptance yourself! The people who want to accept it will learn a lot, the people who don’t want to change, well, they will do the usual and complain.
In that post, I named off a few big names of gurus that have written books that I have read about goal setting.
I wanted to quickly share with you a small list of my top 4 books that I’ve read on goal setting, being productive, and getting things done.
1. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity
– by David Allen
What I liked about this book: Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity, is about Getting Things Done. It teaches you a method for productivity. The premise is simple. Write down all your tasks or goals you need to get done. Break those items up into actionable pieces. Once your first task is done, move on to the next until you get to your goal. This method works because once you do a brain dump, you don’t need to use your energy recalling what you need to do and just focus on completing your list.
What I liked about this book:Atomic Habits a habit-forming book. The author breaks it down for you with simple steps that you can apply right away. It’s a more recent book published in October of 2018. Meaning, the information is fresh and new. You don’t feel like you are reading a book from some old dead doctor that shares information that doesn’t make sense to today’s world.
3. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
– written by Stephen R. Covey
What I liked about this book: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is probably one of the most famous books on this subject. If you are looking for examples of the 7 steps you can easily find examples because this information is quickly found all over blog posts and youtube. My favourite stage is in step 2. Begin with the end in mind. Simply put, what do you want in the future so you can work towards it.
4. One Small Step Can Change Your Life
– written by Robert Maurer
What I liked about this book: One Small Step Can Change Your Life is all about the Kaizen approach. What is the Kaizen approach? It’s a method that was developed for creating continuous improvement by implementing ongoing positive changes. I tried to include some of the technique in my everyday life.
Question for you!
Have you read any books on goal setting, being productive, and getting things done? If so, what did you read and do you recommend the book?
Has anybody ever hurled an unnecessary insult at you making you feel a bit upset?
Well, that’s what happened to me yesterday. Perhaps it wasn’t meant as an insult and was just a jest. It is understandable though, I did leave a comment on the blog post trying to be entertaining, but perhaps not everyone shares my sense of amusement. Regardless, it got me fired up. In fact, it annoyed me so much that I went on the search to see who he was and what his writing was all about. Low and behold, the guy was a professional blogger. Just like that, my dreams crushed that he wasn’t just a know-it-all rookie.
To my disappointment, it turns out that he was a blogger about blogging. Not only was the blogger a blogger about blogging, but I also found out that he was rather good at it. A ton of great information on his site about the do’s and don’ts about blogging. How to blog, how to get traffic, how to make kick-ass subjects, etc. I was actually impressed and said, damn this guy is good.
He had followers in the 100 of thousands, and not sure how many posts. I’m sure he has been around for a long time and worked a hard time getting to where he is today, and it sure looked like his effort paid off.
I could have left then, but I did myself a favour and stayed on his site and read.
After scrolling through a bunch of posts, I came across one that caught my eye. It was a bit like a self-help post. Not too many people know that I am into self-help books. I’ve read my share of the goods and the bads. People like Tony Robbins, Steven Covey, Napoleon Hill, and Mark Manson just to name a few.
So what did this post have to say?
Basically, the message was to make things happen; you need to set goals and do hard work.
Of course, I knew that already, after all, I read the books right?
But why did the post excite me? It’s because I forgot about the goals, and this post reminded me. This man who, I felt, hurt my feelings, reminded me about goals.
A few minutes ago I was mad, now I wanted to make goals. I don’t get how my mind works sometimes, but I do know how to set goals.
4 Standard Steps In Making Goals.
1. Write out your goal
2. Decide when you want to complete this goal by
3. Break the goal into steps to accomplish
4. Start working on the first step
Two additional pieces of information I took away from his post was.
1. Blogging was hard
2. Most people give up
He was exactly right. I am the first person to admit that I am always trying new things and after a short while I give up on them. Not really because they are hard, but that I lose interest.
Do I want to give up?
I’m not going to lie, the thought did cross my mind yesterday morning in crazy morning thinking. Then I read that post. Then I asked myself, was it a sign, or was it just luck that I stumbled across something that resonated with books that I’ve read before.
I am going to take it as both.
The question is though, how do I improve? How can possibly offer something of value to you? It’s only a blog about books right?
The first thought I thought, there is no way. Yes, I know, my self-defeatest attitude rides again. Then I contemplated it for a bit, and realize there are so many ways that I can take this place.
I’m going to take a look at what I feel could be an issue that I could fix. My content on my blog. Not in regards to quality, but of quantity.
In the last two weeks, I did three posts in two weeks. As I checked out some of the more prominent bloggers, I noticed that they wrote posts several times a week.
Does that actually work? I honestly have no idea, because some other sites only have one new post a week.
So using the formula up above here’s my goal for the next two weeks.
1. Write at least 5 blog posts a week
2. March 30th, 2019
3. Write one post at a time
4. Start making blog posts
And that is how I turned a frown upside down and set my first goal for this blog.
Now, if you made it this far, let me know what goals you have set for yourself?