Hey folks, this week I would like to share with you the book called Radical Acceptance written by Tara Brach.
I know I have written about this book in the past, but I just finished rereading it. I was feeling a bit down and needed a pick me up. Today I still feel a bit crappy, but at least I can now reflect on the book and accept what is happening at the moment
For many of us, feelings of deficiency are right around the corner. It doesn’t take much–just hearing of someone else’s accomplishments, being criticized, getting into an argument, making a mistake at work–to make us feel that we are not okay. Beginning to understand how our lives have become ensnared in this trance of unworthiness is our first step toward reconnecting with who we really are and what it means to live fully.
—from Radical Acceptance
“Believing that something is wrong with us is a deep and tenacious suffering,” says Tara Brach at the start of this illuminating book. This suffering emerges in crippling self-judgments and conflicts in our relationships, in addictions and perfectionism, in loneliness and overwork–all the forces that keep our lives constricted and unfulfilled. Radical Acceptance offers a path to freedom, including the day-to-day practical guidance developed over Dr. Brach’s twenty years of work with therapy clients and Buddhist students.
Writing with great warmth and clarity, Tara Brach brings her teachings alive through personal stories and case histories, fresh interpretations of Buddhist tales, and guided meditations. Step by step, she leads us to trust our innate goodness, showing how we can develop the balance of clear-sightedness and compassion that is the essence of Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance does not mean self-indulgence or passivity. Instead it empowers genuine change: healing fear and shame and helping to build loving, authentic relationships. When we stop being at war with ourselves, we are free to live fully every precious moment of our lives.
I believe that your thoughts can either make you or break you.
Unfortunately, a lot of us can’t control what comes seeping into our minds. Actually, nobody can. Sometimes it’s okay, and other times it’s just a bunch of lousy crap. When thoughts come to you, people often fight them. In this book called Radical Acceptance, you are taught to accept them.
A lot of the idea’s in this book are great. The downside is that those ideas are not instant. The author clearly states that it is indeed the case, and it takes practice to calm your mind.
In this book, it gives you a bunch of practices at the end of each chapter. Some of the exercises are great, others are guided meditations where you are not actually guided because they are in the book and you can’t hear them at the moment. Of course, if you have the audiobook that would be a different story. Overall you will benefit if you take the time to do them.
Another thing in this book that is great is that the author gives several stories as examples of her methods in action. These stories are from people who she has worked with at one point or another in her career. Some stories are about her family.
I skilled the last story in the book. I recall it being about Tara’s dog’s death and I didn’t want to deal with that, so I marked the book as read.
If life has you by the throat at times, or you are dealing with some issues, maybe this book would be a good read for you. It’s not an instant fix, but it could possibly help. I know it has helped me in the past, but unfortunately, I haven’t been keeping up with my practice, so the effects of the book are only semi-helpful.
Should you buy this book? I say yes, give is a shot, it won’t hurt you especially if you are having a rough time.